○Organizations and Leaders [9]

     A leader sometimes has to say things that are hard for their staff to hear. However, if they do this too often, they will be seen as nagging. Nagging individuals may be speaking with the other's best interests in mind, but the other's ego perceives this as criticism and resists, becoming uncooperative or aggressive.

    Advice to people can sometimes involve positive encouragement, but at other times, stern words or a pessimistic view might be more effective. Generally, maintaining a balance of 80% positivity and 20% negativity is good, with the ratio reversed depending on the situation and person. If there's too much sternness, people will drift away.

    When an expert watches a beginner's efforts, they can generally quickly discern what is good and what is bad. Rather than pointing it out immediately, it is often better to hold back in the moment. If there is instant feedback every time, the ego of the person doing the work can feel fear and become incapable of bold action. Offering advice at a calmer time and in fewer instances makes it easier for the person to receive and less likely to feel deflated.

    Advice often doesn't reach those with high pride and closed ears. Therefore, one must wait until they fail and feel embarrassed. Only then might they begin to show signs of listening to the opinions of others. Trying to forcefully open closed ears only makes the ego more stubborn. However, even people with high pride may listen to the opinions of those who continue to listen to them with love, and their trust in such people increases. In this sense, people who exist consciously are more likely to soften the hearts of stubborn individuals.

    Whether you instruct a person struggling with a task harshly or gently, little improvement is usually seen. However, gentle instruction can lead to slight improvements. This is because the individual wants to reciprocate for the lack of blame and assistance they received. Thus, the basic principle is to interact with love.

    For people who make many mistakes at work, it may be better to reassess their job placement. If they're berated, they might simply quit. When placed appropriately, one often realizes that the person wasn't the problem. When a new job is closer to one's vocation or true calling, intuition sharpens, and abilities are displayed. Intuition is often lacking when doing something one is not good at.